Category: Daily Living

Normal -> Anxiety -> Better, is it a blessing or a curse?

Disclaimer: I am not a professional counselor and do not intend to prescribe anything here. You should seek a professional service whenever you have to. I am sharing my own experience, which may relate to you or someone else around you.

Discovery Phase

Always look for the sign inside, check that if you have a mind that is not listening to you. If your answer is yes, that means you already have anxiety, or you will experience it sooner or later. For example, you plan a gym or any other exercise activity, and as the time reaches to execute the plan, your mind finds something else more important than your health. That’s an excuse the mind gives to avoid going through physical pain that one experience during the exercise. Because our mind’s job is to save energy, by design, it doesn’t know that exercise improves health — we have multiple minds/ layers.

There are many online anxiety tests that I find not that helpful. As a human, we experience multiple emotions every day, so the results of the tests vary based on when you are taking the online test.

If you keep a journal, that can help you to find a clue. Write down positive and negative things you experienced throughout the day. If you find more items on the negative side, then your mind is attracting/inviting negative energy. I found this useful to check the state of my mind. This also releases stress because things look smaller when written on paper than running in the brain. That says, our mind cannot size/weigh stuff without the help of other mind layers.

Anxiety Level

It would be best if you determined what’s your anxiety level is. You can scale them as low/medium/high.

Low: you feel happy inside, and things look positive around you. However, you get into a period where negativities crippled your mind. You find it hard to go back to your happy mojo. This phase happens due to abnormal circumstances, and most of the time, it lasts for a short interval a few hours or a day or two.
Medium: This is a kind of wave pattern. Your mood frequently swings, even with a small incident. You feel happy if everything goes well around you, and the very next day, you feel sad/mad, or other emotions take over your mental state.
High: You find it impossible to be happy again. Your mind runs in autopilot mode, and negativity is predominant. Even a small thing looks overwhelming to your mind, whether it’s positive or negative. At this level, a person is on anxiety prescription drugs.
There is one more level, which is extreme, where one experiences a panic attack. At this level, even this article will cause a disturbance in your mind. However, I would recommend reading it until the end.

Acceptance

Your anxiety level goes down the day you acknowledge it and start discussing your feeling with others. The initial realization gives clarity to our minds for better processing and handling. Second, when you talk about it with others, that means you are not holding anything.

We live in a world where everyone shows/talks about their strong side that misleads others who are watching/listening to feel they have a problem in their lives, and everyone else is happy, healthy, or wealthy. However, in reality, every human life experiences anguish and difficulties, but very few talk and share.

Opportunities

You might be asking why me? Others are happy, and why am I going through this? The short answer is you didn’t care when you had to, and you let your mind be trained in things that you don’t want to see. Anxiety is a mental state like a happy mind.

Consider this as your failure to learn about yourself. Anxiety opens up lots of opportunities if you look at it with a positive mind. When you are experiencing anxiety, you start noticing all the inside activities food digestion system, heartbeats, brain patterns, a small-small body pain, which you never experienced before. It improves your awareness, which is very important for your growth. You started noticing how your mind reacts to the events.

That is why I call it a blessing. It has changed my life and certainly made me a better person than I was before the experience

Transitioning from Anxiety to Better life

Your mind does everything to keep the current pattern. It would be best if you use an external force to break mental habits. Also, stop listening to your mind and start training your mind using mental and physical exercise. Use a safe yoga posture, and don’t give up even though your brain can’t take it. Always remember your body can take more than what you mind. I used to do Sleeping tiger and chair postures. I started with a Stopwatch and recorded the initial time where I didn’t feel much muscle pain and kept adding 30 seconds from there.

Physical activity releases endorphins and dopamine that help a lot in the transition to a better life.

Although you are vulnerable, I would recommend talking about your mental states with others. Be vigilant; people can easily influence you.

Don’t run away from the situation/places that trigger anxiety. Tell your mind that your body is safe, and everything is normal.

Write only positive things at least once a day. Don’t dwell on negativity. It’s your mind, and nothing has changed outside.

Meditation is the best way when you mix it up with yoga. If you solely do meditation, you won’t be able to focus because of the stressful mind. You can see the differences, do the slow breathing exercise before and after yoga. In the beginning, you would find it hard to control breathing, but it becomes easy if you do the same after the session.

If you notice kids, they are always happy except when they want something badly. But they let go of things and move on. Another reason for their happiness could be very minimal knowledge of things. Remember, you were a kid too. Don’t feed any information that brings negativity. e.g., watching violent movies or news.

There are many methods I used, and everyone is different, so always try a new way to teach your mind to look at things with a positive mind.

Sustainability

If you keep a little positive approach, you will come out from the anxiety. The techniques you use to come out from stress keep practicing that and get better at it.

Happy Life

The whole journey will make you a better person, and you will learn to let go of things that don’t matter. Everything is beautiful inside and outside. You need to bring that beauty in your mind by mind training.

Stay positive and live a happy life!!

Is anger normal?

The Power of Anger: Understanding and Navigating Our Emotions

In a world where anger and agitation have become the norm, we seldom pause to contemplate their underlying causes. Today, I invite you to explore some thought-provoking questions that can lead you on a path towards eliminating or gaining better control over these so-called negative emotions. Prepare to embark on a journey of self-discovery and emotional mastery.

Anger is more than just an intense emotion—it has left an indelible mark on my own life. I have often found myself filled with regret when negative emotions take control of my mind, leading me to engage in actions that I later wished I hadn’t. The repercussions of such moments have extended far beyond the initial outburst, affecting my overall well-being and the relationships with those around me. It’s a powerful reminder of the importance of understanding and managing these emotions for the sake of our own health and the harmony of our connections with others.

Through personal experiences and self-reflection, I’ve come to understand its significance and the importance of managing it effectively. In this article, I aim to share my insights on anger, its normalcy, and practical strategies for transforming it into a positive force in our lives.

I am writing it is in layman language. I am merely sharing my experience and awareness of my own mind.

When we see and hear something then eyes and hearing sense send chemical signals to our brain for processing and the brain processes them and responds in a logical manner. That’s why we believe what we see and hear. But that’s not always true though. We are limited to our own knowledge we can’t make any logical sense beyond our mental limits. So, how does our mind learn?

In essence, you shape your identity and worldview through the content you consume, the actions you take, and the thoughts you cultivate.

You may be thinking, “What’s the big deal? Everyone does that.” However, the truth is, not everyone possesses the awareness to allow thoughts to pass through their mind without holding onto them. Those who are mindful of their thought processes consciously apply filters to incoming information, safeguarding their overall mental state. By selectively processing and letting go of certain thoughts, they maintain a healthier and more balanced mindset.

What are those filters?

  • Refine your media choices to align with the positive outcomes you desire, focusing on content that uplifts and inspires you.
  • Curate a playlist or seek out audio frequencies that promote brain healing and well-being, incorporating them into your listening habits.

Through personal experience, I have witnessed remarkable enhancements in my mental well-being by consciously abstaining from television consumption and avoiding enticing commercial distractions. I have chosen to disconnect from news sources that inundate me with information beyond my control or interest. By curating my content intake, I have reclaimed control over my mental state and focused on engaging only with what aligns with my values and aspirations.

I would highly recommend incorporating devotional songs into your routine, as they can help foster a deep spiritual connection with God based on your religious beliefs. If you identify as a non-believer, exploring the realm of binaural beats or soothing music can provide a calming and transcendent experience that nurtures your sense of inner peace and spirituality.

You may be wondering, “If I’m not consuming mainstream media, what should I focus on instead?” The key lies in seeking out content that nurtures your overall well-being. Engage in activities that promote personal growth, such as exploring spiritual and psychology books, embracing meditation practices, incorporating meridian exercises, and immersing yourself in the healing power of nature by taking peaceful walks outdoors. By deliberately choosing these enriching experiences, you can cultivate a profound sense of self-discovery and inner harmony.

A physical body or rather I should the brain (including animals) is designed to react to things that are thrown at us in the easiest way without much processing, especially emotions that engage the whole body, because of the urgency. e.g. Fight-and-Flight situation.

Our physical bodies, including our brains, are wired to instinctively react to external stimuli, particularly intense emotions like anger, with minimal processing. This is a survival mechanism, seen even in animals, geared towards immediate response in fight-or-flight situations. Therefore, it is crucial to remember not to simply react but to consciously act in a way that benefits ourselves and others, ensuring a more positive outcome for all involved.